Dr John Demartini and The Gratitude Effect

Chris    Self help     gratitude, john demartini, personal development

On Tuesday night I had the chance to hear Dr Demartini speak for the second time, in support of his latest book titled ‘The Gratitude Effect’.

Of the many things he talked about, one of the key things was the idea of understanding the duality and balance that occurs in everything.

Everything is balanced
True gratitude comes from this understanding where you can appreciate negative as well as positive events, as it’s only our perspective that makes it seem as such.

There is good inside of every bad event and bad inside of every good. It’s always balanced though you may not initially be able to see it.

To not see both sides is when you allow yourself to feel infatuation or resentment, which are both imbalanced perspectives.

Reflections of people
Another interesting point is how you perceive other people, as what you see in others is a reflection of yourself.

If you know someone who is caring and generous, to the same level you have that trait somewhere.

Likewise if you know someone who is selfish and cruel, you also have that trait to the same degree somewhere.

Challenge and support
Challenge helps you grow in nature, support shields you from growth.

If you always surround yourself with things that support you and your beliefs, you can never reach your full potential. Challenge is required to expand you, to make you think and to grow you as a person.

Yin and yang
There can be no happiness without sadness.

Kindness and cruelty. Giving and taking. Life and death. Growth and decay. Confidence and fear. Light and dark. Charity and selfishness. Relaxation and tension. Joy and anger. Fulfilment and emptiness. Co-operation and competition.

Everything is always balanced and true gratitude is when you can be thankful for all the things that support and challenge you, when you can find the benefit in the drawback and vice versa.

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